Wednesday, May 15, 2013

JEALOUSY IS INDEED A 'FATAL VIRUS' WITHIN US

By Vasantha Vaikunth (Guest Writer)

Modern man is clever enough to find prevention and cure for deadly diseases in the scientific laboratory but has overlooked the spreading cancerous cell of jealousy.  The competitive spirit is nurtured from childhood. The present culture is based on envy, insecurity watching other s prosperity, and acquisitiveness. One cannot cultivate virtue or humanitarian feelings with the mind that is highly complicated. 
The complexity rises from hiding the real emotion and trying to mislead other people. In the course of time one starts believing in one s own pretences.  It is the closest friends and relatives who develop the virus of jealousy; they get consumed in it as the negative emotion remains within and they flash their artificial smiles and wishes. 

We often find on the dinner table with friends, one trying to impress the other of their success stories and power of money.  It is a strain for people to be natural; they find it easier to come closer to the image building, the foundation of which is envy, comparison and competition. Attachment gives pleasure; it also breeds jealousy and pain. 

Love cannot flow with jealousy; people live, suffer and die in self created situation. The truth is no two human beings can be the same; their perception, experience, understanding is different from each other and there will be friction in knowing the core of the situation. 

We want to possess things and people; we are afraid of losing them and yet we breed envy in the heart. Everyone has a compulsive necessity to depend on others. It is important to keep our ego and emotion under check as human contact is inevitable. The whole world is interdependent; humans have lost the ability to deal with relationships. 

Pain of jealousy comes from psychological dependence. For e.g.-I need my family because I love them. If I didn't love them, I would not care. This means love and jealousy go together. If there is no love, there wouldn't be jealousy. If I free myself from jealousy, have I got rid of love? 

Attachment implies fear. You are afraid of what you are, of what you will be if other leaves you. The pleasure of attachment carries fear and envy. For e.g. it is like holding the bear thinking it is a rock during flash floods! 

People who are single are fearful of the future; those in love have the stress of impressing each other, those married get eaten up by anxiety to hold the marriage together. 

All this turmoil and contradiction is what we call love. The love we claim to feel is selfish. People talk of quality time even to children which truly means "I satisfy my guilt but I don't have time for your real needs.' 

Selfishness is the core of modern culture; dependence on electronic gadgets has speeded up this destructive culture. People complain of isolation, loveless existence and anxiety syndrome and what have they invested in their relationships to deserve love? 

Each of us has come on the earth to give, return our debts to others; the moment we turn greedy, restless mind takes over our lives. 

Live your life as it comes to you, don't get competitive as there is nothing called healthy competition; it is only to justify your negative emotion. Love today is fast, furious and demanding; it is like a brand, pick it up and it helps your image. 

Who has the best brand? There is no capsule that can cure the virus of jealousy Expanding awareness and depth of your feelings can help mankind from the decaying culture.

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