Super Women-Women of today

By Samiya Anwar

"I am challenged when I have not mastered a situation. Until I master it, I feel pressure-- and that comes from me, not any individual. I myself, I am striving to be the best." - Super Women

Today, women are moving shoulder to shoulder with men, fighting gender stereotypes at home and at the office. The closed women are opening up. And the 21st century women are progressing in all key areas and fields undoubtedly. Here is a super woman, challenging, outstanding, excellent, exceptional, belongs to present day world. Very less know, as who is a super women.

If you think, she is a wife of Super Man. No, she isn’t. She is a human being, like all of us. If you imagine, she is having some super power. You’re at erring. She is not enchanted or wizardry. Think again. Super women lives right in our families, relatives, neighbors and our knower. Yes. She is different. She is extremely superior. She is special too.

Well, life of female species is betrothed, cannot be denied, right. And I don’t have to say, for women, the day begins with rise of sun but does not set with sun. Poor women, get up early (say 5 or 6 A.M.), pull herself to storm-full of activities. Voluntarily or forcedly, she is mixed up with number of things. Making a wholesome breakfast for family, shouting at kids to awake, sprucing them up for school, looking after husband’s breakfast, clothes, socks, even hankies, enough of, please. Need a break. But no. she is again ready to dress up perfectly for work. Sometimes with or most of the time without breakfast she reaches office. Her day at work goes hectically pressurized. Once home, the evenings are spent playing the perfect mother and wife. She is a super woman- woman of today who balances a job, kids, husband and house work. They are amazing. Really! Isn’t she?

Super women juggle number of activities at a time. They are struggling for perfectionism. Their instinct pushes and they feel burdensome unless they do everything perfectly. They are hyper-stressed, bewildered and troubled. It is not easy being a super woman. Strenuous job, labored fully because women has a tendency to say the world, "Look what I can do;” They want “appreciation”. They want “compliments”. Super women do anything to feel more wanted. At home, being a wife or mother. She wants to do all by herself. At work place she is same, hungry for praises. She craves for accolades everywhere.

Shilpa, a full-time Fashion Designer (married with two kids) says, “I do a lot of stuff. My family thinks I'm crazy (may be ‘Yes’) and my friends sadly shake their heads with pity in their eyes. Their concerns are well founded; I do way too much. But all is essential”. She is boarded in a train which probably has ‘no stops’ and ‘no station’ yet. She is just moving. There is ‘no break’. Her life is ‘break-free’. She has no time for herself. But she doesn’t agree and really don’t mean it either. This is a “super women” complex.

Fulfilling multiple roles coupled with a lack of time leads young women to neglect their own diet and health. She is expected to be successful at work, take care of the family and at the same time, still look beautiful. Moreover; there are real ‘superwomen’ who balances all tasks successfully. It is important that a woman takes care of her health whilst juggling her duties, very true.

Scientist has recently discovered a new ingredient isolated from soy beans. This ingredient is known as ‘Genistein’ which amazed many researchers with its amazing health-giving properties which many superwomen need to keep their health at the peak. Genistein is chemically similar to the female hormones, oestrogen. This similarity enables genistein to regulate any imbalances in oestrogen levels that may potentially upset a woman’s health.

Also in an online survey of work-life balance, asked women why they can't turn down favors, the top reason was--"I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them mad at me." Second to that: "They're showing faith in me and I can't let them down.”. There are loads of statistics that show that doing things for others results in lasting happiness. However, where is a room for self? Ask yourself “what will am I doing for myself today. The answer would be “nothing’. And it is just because you’re so involved in the life of others; you forget your own purpose. There is no ‘Me Time’ or ‘My Time’ in super women’s life, sadly.

Despite multitasking is becoming the norm of present day women. Multitasking makes you slow and it is hard to do everything perfectly and be best all the time. The multitasking women are redundant. They need better balance as there aren’t any breaks in life because being working women; super women are endlessly fulfilling every obligation except the one to themselves. For mental, physical, and psychological well-being, sometimes you just need to stop. Then you need to do something you want to do. You need to take some ‘Me Time’ says a recent study on urban working women.

The Families and Work Institute (FWI) found that working mothers spend both more time at the job and more time with their kids than their counterparts did 25 years ago. Where are they finding that extra time? "It's coming from time for them," says Ellen Galinsky, FWI president. So, by taking a break from the same time is no big deal. Women should understand. It is not to stop work but to rest and re-think our strategy to go about it from another angle. If you shift your focus, you go back to the other areas of life with more energy. She continues saying” You’re less stressed, more satisfied with life in general."

Nevertheless ness, it would be of no value to be called a “Super Women” if you’re tension-filled all the time. Handle stress by giving time to you as a person. Not in any way, caught up with hectic pace of every day life and be harried by screwing up everything. Rejuvenate, do what you like, involve in a hobby and see. Try it, I dare you! You’ll love life more than before. All the best!