It is a malevolent society. And what truly astounds is the gender bias, it still exists. men favoritism isn’t it weird? Yes it is. We all know today’s women are independent but also in the shambles and tattered mostly. This is a bizarre. An odd reality! But modern women are bombarded by unrealistic expectations from within themselves and by external demands from home, work, relationships, and traditions. Life is not easy. It’s surely difficult for them especially if they are Muslim.
Women here, we can categorize into three types. Firstly a traditional house wife, secondly, a working woman of fast paced world and lastly a modern woman who manages everything. All the three are different and masters of their occupation. It would be no good to say only women working in offices or companies are working women and not others. Our grand mothers and mothers are for instance traditionally working for the well-being of the family. They are religiously very good as they hear our fathers, doesn’t demand to work and have a job of own. They are dependent on the male members, also happy. But now the need of women has expanded the horizon and walks with the world not just they talk and stay back, they participate. They have redressed the area of gender.
Moreover a working woman faces much hype in everything. What a women at home doesn’t not. Unlike other religions Muslim women, in the present era, faces lot of stereotype against the male dominance society.
An independent and working woman is a good turn-on. Either they are single, married, divorcees or childless every working female has so many open advantages. They are confidently walking the corporate ladder and have proved as successful entrepreneurs and CEO’s what not. Men love the women who are beautiful, independent and outspoken. They are appreciated. But not all. When it comes to a family and marriage she is not the right choice for many. Men are smart. Every Muslim man wants somebody who can be at home. They think that the first duty of women is to be women of house and nothing else. If a women serves food, washes clothes and irons it, which is still loved by husbands. The career women are not in their list. Men like women to be their associates at home they want women supporter not decision makers. And this is what makes the working women wonder. Soha (name changed), 26 is working in Gen pact from five years and has no plans to tie the knot. She is smart, independent, liked by many everywhere. But for marriage the guys don’t choose her. They are scared of her independence. She wishes to work after marriage and there is less who understands her. What is wrong if a women wishes to work after marriage? This made her broke and she decided not to marry for some time. Her matrimonial side is zero when compared to others. All her friends are married and have children. She feels isolated though successful following her dreams.
Every time we attempt to assert ourselves as Muslim women we are accused of being influenced by the West, isn’t that wrong. It is not only Soha who was single and stressful. Many others are in such circumstances. There is a very unfriendly environment within our own communities. The same stereotype questions arise all time if a women works. Like Bushra (name changed) is a call centre employee whose mother was ashamed to say the relatives that her daughter is employed in a job. She is scared to reveal that she is working in a night shift. Bushra stood tall in times of crises and proved a good support for the family. What is wrong if she is working in the night? According to her mother, “everyone and everybody start questioning from friends to neighbors, all. Whenever I go out to parties, or have a family get-together, or leave my house, the question inevitably gets asked, “Why are you sending your daughter in the night?” but how long it will be anonymous. Our own parents feel we shouldn’t work, though we support the work. Isn’t it?
Also the married women are victims of several typecast questions. She spends more time in the office than at home. The boss, male co-workers and husband she is shattered in pieces with the work pressure, household chores, children and husband, all makes her drained of life. No time for grooming and friends forget about the “Me Time”. Life is not rosy. She is always reminded of her religion that she walks with the pride of religion and family. She should maintain the poise and be reserve.
“You’re a Muslim” this is the statement told to every girl almost every day stepping out of the houses. There is a big burden she carries when she make a foot out. Why? why because she is a Muslim.
Islam liberated women 1400 years ago and history is a proof of women being successful in every area of society. They were women participants in the war, political activities and economic needs. Though it is grisly that women with more freedom has became slaves of modernity. The women from burqa’s turned to tramp. The old notion of society is been altered. They work, they are independent. They are keeping men at guessing. In the newspapers and magazines we see and hear so many Muslim women being harassed and molested. The same old complains my boss repeatedly puts his arm around my waist when discussing work-related matters. The co-workers unwelcome comments often make me uncomfortable. Who is to be blame? The female workers or the boss, if the women dress shabbily, doesn’t care of modesty while dressing. Such things are common and act as an open invitation to men. In such a case you either get afraid of loosing job or welcome the advances of such people. Good women changes the job and it is been observed that women have more reasons to change jobs frequently than men. A woman doesn’t walk alone when she works outside.
Nevertheless ness we Muslim women can walk with pride and dignity in the society only if we maintain the true concept of women. Working is no sin. It is good if a woman supports her parents or husband. But changing the dimensions of society is no fair. Religion is an important aspect of life and every woman should understand and be in the limits of the boundaries set by the religion and society as well.
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