An exclusive research will take you to understand the inner voice of women, what if it would be so nice, if inner beauty triumphed over outer appearance. But men are designed to care about packaging. It's time to accept the not-so-pretty facts about looks. There are certain practical experience and blunt facts of life, which force us to think about the realities of life with unselfish eyes. If you want to snag a fish, you can’t just slap the water with your hand and yell.
Welcome to Uglytopia—the world remained as a place where it's the content of a woman’s self defense and inner character, not her makeup, which puts her on the front covert of the magazine. Maybe we need affirmative action for ugly people. While we wish things were different, we'd best accept the ugly reality. No man will turn his head to ogle a woman because she looks like the type to buy a turkey sandwich for a homeless man or read to the blind.
There is a vast research on men and women are biologically and psychologically different, but how to overcome a difference of being good-looking, beautiful or ugly still remained undefined. My study goes baseless when I find my female friends strive hard to adjust in society. Why in west, everyone looks beautiful and in Asia, beauty is defined with examples, places, poetry .The features men evolved to go for in women—youth, clear skin, a symmetrical face and body, feminine facial features, an hourglass figure—are those indicating that a woman would be a healthy, fertile candidate to pass on a man's genes. I don’t find an answer, what I have taught from the beginning is beauty is skin deep.
These preferences span borders, cultures, and generations, meaning yes, there really are universal standards of being beautiful. And while Asian women do struggle to be slim, the truth is, women in all cultures eat or don’t eat to appeal to males as to wish she should have been more or a bit little attractive. In cultures like ours, where you can’t go out after 10 pm and food is cooked and served by the pallet along with husband, fat women are out. In cultures where food is considered as understanding thin women are in, and women appeal to men by stuffing themselves until they're slim.
Most women prefer men who are taller than they are, with symmetrical features. But, women across cultures are intent on finding male partners with high status, power, and access to resources—which means a really short guy can add maybe a foot to his height with a private jet. And, just like women who aren't very attractive, men who make very little money or are chronically out of work tend to have a really hard time finding partners. There is some male grumbling about this. Women need to urge to bow out of the beauty arms race and "Learn to love that woman in the mirror!", nobody gets into the ridiculous position of advising men to "Learn to love that unemployed guy sprawled on the couch!"
Now, before you brand me a traitor to my gender, let me say that I'm all for women having the vote, and I think a woman with a tie should make the same money as a man with a tie. But you don't help that woman by advising her, "No need to wear a button or work off that beer belly!"
We consider it admirable when people strive to better themselves intellectually; we don't say, "Hey, you weren't born a genius, so why ever bother reading a book?" Why should we treat physical appearance any differently? For example, research shows that men prefer women with full lips, smaller chins, and large eyes—indicators of higher levels of estrogen. Some lucky women have big eyes; others just seem to, thanks to the clever application of eye shadow. As the classic commercial says, "Maybe she's born with it. Maybe it's Maybelline."
Once women start seeing wrinkles and crow's feet, the desperation to look like they were born yesterday often makes them act like it, too. But the Beauty Brains, a group of blogging cosmetic scientists, write, "The sad truth is that creams that claim to be anti-aging are not much more effective than standard moisturizing lotions." Too many women try to get away with a bait-and-switch approach to appearance upkeep.
French women, too, buy into the idea that there's some fountain of youth at the Clarins counter. But, perhaps because feminism never seeped into mainstream culture in France like it did here, they generally have a healthier and more realistic relationship with beauty, accepting it as the conduit to love, relationships, and increased opportunities. They take pleasure in cultivating their appearance, and in accentuating their physical differences from men. They don't give up on looking after their looks as they do not age, nor do they tart themselves. They simply take pride in their appearance and try to look like sensual, older women.
To understand what it takes to be beautiful, we need to be very clear about what being beautiful means—being pure within the soul to understand the beauty with the beautiful eyes God has bestowed upon us.
Like French women, we, neither too, need to understand that a healthy approach to beauty is neither pretending it's unnecessary or unimportant nor making it important beyond all else. By being honest about it, we help women make informed decisions about how much effort to put into their appearance—or accept the opportunity costs of going without grooming.
The truth is, like knowledge, beauty is power. So, ladies, read lots of books, develop your mind and your character, exercise the rights the heroes of the women's movement fought for us to have, and strive to become somebody who makes a difference in the world. And, please while you're doing all of that, don't forget to wear lip-gloss.
