Tuesday, September 20, 2011

'Glad to be a woman' - Akshara in Star Plus Daily Soap

Hello friends, hope all of you are doing fine. As you know, I just had a week full of shockers and unpleasant experiences and I hope all of it ends here. But these mishaps made me realise that I was lucky to be a woman in a house where there are no discrimination between a girl or boy.

I am glad to be a woman and proud to belong to such a family. I have realized that not all girls are as lucky as me. It is shocking and shameful to see parents reject their girl children even before they are born. Having gone through a miscarriage, I understand the value of a child and I wonder how anyone can be so heartless?

Friends, I feel so proud and lucky to be born as a woman. It is a blessing. We women may be called the weaker sex but emotionally we are stronger than men. God has given us the opportunity to give birth to another life and as I await the arrival of my baby, I realize what a precious gift we women have. In my own family, I have inspirations like Ma, Gayatri Ma, Bhabhi Ma, who are loving, caring and handle the family perfectly. We don’t need one woman’s day to celebrate being a woman. Everyday should be a celebration of womanhood.

Being a woman, also means planning something for her better half and making him feel special right? So, the week started with me planning a surprise with Naitik. I had noticed that Naitik was upset with me and was being curt in his responses to me. So, I decided to organize a coffee date on the terrace. I tried to inform Naitik about my plan but he kept refusing to answer my calls. I was disappointed, so I decided to spend some time chatting with Ma till Naitik returned home. Unfortunately, I did not realize when I fell asleep and thus my plan flopped badly which I felt sad about. I tried speaking to Naitik the next morning but again he refused to respond properly. I understand that his work has increased with Dadaji being away but he should understand that even I need his time and attention. It hurts and upsets me when he ignores me.

Later, I had to visit my gynaecologist, Dr Kothari, for a check-up. I expected Naitik to accompany me but again Naitik refused to answer my calls and so I had to go with Ma instead. Dr Kothari advised me to get a sonography done in another clinic and here again I wanted Naitik to be by my side. Friends, I have to confess that his presence helps me remain to calm and is like an assurance that everything will be fine. I tried contacting him desperately but was disappointed as his phone was switched off.

Anyway, along with Ma I visited the clinic to get the sonography done. I was in for a rude shock when Naitik called up and accused me of not informing him about the appointment because I wanted to go with Ma instead. I explained to him that I had left a message since his phone was switched off and had also informed the receptionist in his office. However, Naitik just refused to listen to me and accused me of cooking up excuses. Friends, I can’t explain how bad I felt at that moment. I always want Naitik to be by my side, so why would I lie about the appointment? I would have been so happy if Naitik had come with me. I wonder when the misunderstandings will end but I pray that they do so soon.

I was sad and upset and felt that this was one of the worst moments of my life but then little did I know what was coming up next. There was a sign in the clinic that said sex determination tests are illegal but there was a mother-in-law there who was forcing her daughter-in-law too undergo the test. I was shocked and disgusted when the mother-in-law bribed the peon to get the test done.

If that was not enough, the doctor mistakenly thought that Ma and I had come to get the sex determination test done. The police arrived and we were arrested. I was so shocked that I did not know what to do. My first reaction was to immediately call up Naitik but he did not answer my calls. Finally, we managed to contact Bauji and only then we were a little relieved. Bauji, Shaurya bhaiya and Naitik arrived at the police station while we were still awaiting our fate. After a few nail biting moments, the attendant of the clinic was called and he explained to the police that we are innocent. I just thanked God at that moment but the incident left me so traumatized that I just could not control my tears.


However, this horrible experience had a silver lining in my case. Naitik and I had a heart to heart chat after it. Naitik apologized for his behaviour towards me and it made me feel better. We spent some quality time together and that made me feel so good. Even a few moments spent with Naitik cheer me up. As we were discussing the topic of sex determination tests, I felt so lucky that I belong to a family where girls are not discriminated against. In fact, Naitik told me that in our family girls are more pampered than boys. Friends, I really feel that parents should pray for a healthy child instead of a boy child. Today girls are equally competent as boys and are capable of looking after the family. Then why this discrimination? Don’t girls have an equal right to life?

Friends, I would love to know what you feel about the issue of illegal sex determination tests and discrimination against the girl child. Have you seen such instances and have you done something to stop it? - (Newsindia Syndication)

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