The Bondage between Two Souls

By Samiya Anwar

Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains, an age old but true cliché. We are born freely but enslaved by self and others. By others, I mean people. We are in bonds. We are in ties everywhere. Hence we are in chains. And why not, it is God who made us social creatures. So we are meant to have social interaction and relationships with others. And by self, we are slaves of our own soul.

Though it is a harsh reality, it is cruelty Yes—Man is his own friend, he also is his own enemy. The heart and mind have different things to say, not always same Sometimes we listen to our hearts, we suffer, and sometimes we’re benefited. Other times when we hear our minds, we likely get oppressed and repressed despite advantageous. There is in some kind of burden we are living with. The bondage, which not let us free, there is some weight in every relationship. Moreover all relationships seem confusing and hopeless at times, where we need discernment in them.

Like when we’re born we are introduced to several relationships. Mother, father, brother, sister, grand father, grand mother, maternal-paternal uncles and aunts, cousins, etc and as we grow, we enter a new world of school and play which gives us friends and more ties. There are many ways in which people can be 'connected' to each other, and that many of those connections can create a deep sense of closeness, intimacy and togetherness. In those, there is also someone who is not really known, as a relationship to us and in hereafter we get into a very strong association with that person. A kind of a knot or connection lies between the two. The special bond or tie which not necessary you know or you many not. That can be with a whole-new stranger, your close friend, a cousin or some one in the kith and kin. Very likely, this is what we call a soul tie or soul connection.

And now, let me get to the heart of the matter forthrightly “The bondage between two souls”. When we hear the term “two souls” a passion arose inside. Our minds click to a romantic movie, or we take a trip to heaven thinking of soul mates. Does actually soul mates exist or it is we trying to seek it in our relationships. Sushma and Rajat, a couple said, “They found soul mate in each other” in the first month of marriage. Did they really get the one or they are just on fantasying zone, I wonder. Because in the beginning of a relationship everything seems to be rosy and lovely, with time, romance flee in air and the word “soul mate” commenced missing. They complained often of not knowing each other fully. Sushma says Rajat has a dominating attitude and she feels upset and more like a servant than wife. If they are soul mates, then what is the problem I ponder? Why? Why is it so? The bondage, rules!

I think the majority of people on earth regardless of their standing are slaves to themselves than others. One loves thyself more than thy neighbor, relative, spouse or anyone else. We are cruel and slaves of ourselves. The key is being mutually satisfied. If we’re not satisfied we find fault. What we want is satisfaction from life and others in life. Aren’t we?

Although everyone has a different story to tell, at some point we can easily be mistaken because we’re in slavery in relationship. Some enjoy the feeling of helplessness for its own sake. Says Zoya, a housewife who loves to surrender and sacrifice her own self for the sake of successful relationship. She is ready to put the labor to save marriage for being its sacred. It is not just Zoya, many other women sense and tolerate all kinds of abuse and mistreat by husbands and lovers as think they are bonded not just physically or sexually and not even for surnames, the emotional tie or soul tie oppresses them to give up. They happily loose themselves. But some women hate themselves for doing that and some struggles aggressively to come out of it. Alike Saumya, a bank employee who is in matrimony for six years finds it difficult to “to say yes” to her husband always. A kind of domination she feels inside the heart being very successful in career and life. She also says there is no need one feels repressed because men and women are equal. But Lalit, a software engineer opines that men rule the world and dominates the society being the gender superior. It isn't always easy to tell what kind of problem lies between two people.

If the “one” of the “two” is selfish and controlling, the relationship is likely to become dangerous, because your souls are knit together, emotionally and this is no longer make you feel of a Godly kind of soul bond. Here comes a form of bondage and enslavement again. The misunderstanding develops and hatred fills the mind with devil thoughts. That’s why relationships break instead of getting together. The “two souls” which are meant for together part ways and the seriousness of relationship goes astray. Yet, being in a problem is a strange experience,—peculiar one, we all knows.

As it is said that the closest relationship is of a man with women, say husband-wife or lover-beloved. The relationship of “two souls” is blessed because comfort is not in being alone, but being with someone, it is not spiritually or emotionally, but the two people need to put a lot of labor and effort to have a successful relation. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to do or who to seek help from. If your bond is true, and wish to have “life-long bond, the Holy Spirit inside you will teach, how to have this kind of relationship. But remember you need to be self-less and have to develop the “giving” quality. Because it takes two souls to have a pure and giving heart that put their love in action. Be mindful, “The soul mates are not found, they are made from all the bondages of life”. Moreover, it is no easy; I think hope is a wonderful concept. So best of luck!